Motivation Tips To Achieve Your Goals
I hope you are doing really well! I had been following your fat loss program for three months and got great results. So first of all, I wanted to start off by saying “thank you very much from the bottom of my heart Ray”. Since October of last year, I am down 18 inches (only counting my bust, hips, waist, and abdomen)! Yippee! (I have attached two after pictures from a couple of weeks ago, though one is just a head shot. You requested this a month or two ago and here it finally is! Now you have a face to my name as well as more context to work with).
However, for these past two months, I have really lacked motivation to go further, and I wanted to hear your thoughts about this. I mean, I want it, I visualize myself more fit and toned from where I am now, and everyday I try to get back on “the wagon” only to fall off again four days later. So though I have not gained any inches or weight, I have not progressed any further, and I find it very difficult to both stay positive about myself and my potential to achieve the body that I want, and also to stay within my calorie limit for weight loss.
Another side note is I am constantly craving fruit! Fruit, fruit, fruit all the time I have a difficult time not eating it past 12:00 noon. It’s like the sugars in it or something. Do you know what causes this? Or do you have any suggestions?
Anyway, do you have any words of wisdom to help me regain motivation and get to where I want to be? You know because I have gone down quite a few inches and I like my body so much more now than I did before I think I am scared to go any further. Perhaps the fear of the unknown and the lack of confidence in myself is preventing me from committing myself further?
Have you or your clients had experience with this? Thankyou so much. I really appreciate it. I know this is past my one month trial period so I don’t know if you are willing to answer my questions, but I would love to hire you as an internet coach or online trainer for one on one coaching over email. Thanks so much and have a wonderful day!
Sincerely,
Annie
You know its so funny. You watch the movies and you see the physiologist just sit there and listen to the question from the patient. Hey Doc, ” I just don’t have the motivation to go further. Can you help me with some tips?”. Then the Doc sits there and rephrases the question right back at them, “Why is it do you think that you lack the motivation to go further?”
This is where the music starts out lightly and then builds up a little. The client says..”I don’t know, I guess I’m just a little scared of the unknown and lack the confidence that I can do this.” Ah Hah! We have the problem and the answer and the Doc never really offered any guru like advice. The answer is that in order to go to the next level of development, the area where most people never go, we need to work on confidence and getting rid of the fear of failure.
So, the drama aside, sometimes its tuff to gear up for another run of discipline and hard work. That’s why athletes and bodybuilders have off and in season training schedules. You just really can’t expect to go full bore day in and day out. We all need a rest. Then once you take it and decide that you are ready to achieve your next batch of goals, you go for and go for it with all you have. You EXPECT success because you are taking the right actions. You know you are taking the right actions because someone that is experienced in the area you want to succeed in has given you directions.
As for fearing failure. What would that really be in your case? Would it be that you don’t lose 30 pounds? In what time frame? What is the worst case scenario? I guess that it would be you loose absolutely no weight at all. Now that wont happen I can guarantee that because I know the experiences of others on the program, but it raises a great point. The point is that if you are not enjoying the journey or the path that leads you to the goal, you are on the wrong path. There is more than one way to achieve any goal.
When you enjoy what you are doing, the achieving of the goal is a bonus. Not something that you fear not achieving. When you find a means of getting to a goal that you enjoy, you will do it day in and day out simply because you enjoy doing it. You love being in the process. You can’t wait to wake up and get the blood flowing and feel that extra energy all day long. The funny thing is, the people that adapt this approach to anything, fitness included seem to be the ones that stick to it long term and achieve the highest standard of accomplishments. Even more funny, it happened in the background as they enjoyed themselves each day.
I hope this helps you out and FANTASTIC job on coming this far.
P.S. If you enjoy fruit, then have some. Keep it to a cup a serving. Something like strawberries or grapefruit. I don’t allow this in the beginning stages of the program after noon because I want people to see a little drop in the scale right away even if it does include some water weight.
Your coach
Ray Burton
http://www.fattofitprogram.com
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